I am not sure if there is a genetic predisposition for this or not, but I am starting to notice a family trend with biting. Times it by two and we’ve got an all out war with gnashing of teeth.
Lately one of our babies, Luke, has started to bite his twin brother Cole whenever he wants something that Cole has. I have seen Cole bite back once, but usually the end result is crying from both parties and bright pink bite marks. As I am writing this, I just caught Luke and Cole together what appeared to be an open mouth kiss, but was actually them trying to bite each other.
This has been an interesting phase to try to work through. Will had a similar phase around the same age, but there wasn’t anyone else to bite except me. I am pretty sure that it runs in our family. When I was a kid I noticed that my dad had a tendency to clench his teeth when he was angry. When I was a toddler I started biting my older sister on a daily basis. And I still have this urge to bite things when I feel out of control. I can feel bite marks on the insides of my lips that must have been worn in over time.
This urge, this force to bite is strong in Luke. Cole doesn’t really do it unless it is in retaliation, but Luke does all the time. He even gets a look on his face when he’s about to snap. I wish I could remember how we helped Will move out of this phase. The fact that I can’t remember probably means that we didn’t do anything, and he eventually just outgrew the behavior. Once they can communicate with words or signs, the need to express themselves physically goes down. One day they will stop. Right now my mission is to prevent it from happening. Wish me luck!
What phases have been really challenging with your kids? For moms of multiples, what toddler behaviors are more difficult to deal with because there are two or more?