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My Simple Trick for Disorganized, Forgetful Kids

My simple trick for disorganized and forgetful kids (especially kids in foster care)

The girls have been with us for almost three months. But if you ask them, they might say they’ve been here for 3 weeks. Or 9 months. They aren’t sure. They have a lot of trouble keeping track of time – days, minutes, hours.

They’re constantly asking us what day it is and what happens today. And it makes sense, if you look at kids in foster care as a generalized, non-specific group. Kids who have been abused or neglected (and as a reminder:  that’s why kids are in foster care. Not because of something they did.) have probably not had a super organized life. They don’t know when they’re getting their next meal, let alone which days the family does what activities. Regular snack time? Routines they can depend upon? Forget it.

Kids in care don’t change overnight and it takes time to trust that what you say is what you mean. It takes longer than a few weeks to overcome symptoms of PTSD and make sense out of disorganized chaos.

That being said, the constant forgetfulness was starting to become problematic. They were forgetting things daily, not understanding what day it was. Everyone else would be dressed for church and they’re still sitting on the couch wearing their PJs 10 minutes before departing. We tried adding a calendar to their room, but as expected, remembering to mark off days was too much to handle and they would mark off days too far in advance.

Finally I had an epiphany, one that only cost $1.00 and approximately 2 minutes of time each evening.

I started thinking about all the things that I tell the girls right before bed that they inevitably forget before morning and decided I would write them down on a $1.00 dry erase board from Dollar Tree. Um…duh! So simple, and it could change my life.

Here’s an example of what I might write down:


The first day using the dry erase board the girls were all set for school and I noticed one of them dutifully putting the items in her backpack that I had specified on the board. Later I asked if they had seen the board and they said “YES, it was SO HELPFUL Miss Krista! Can you do that every day?” Why yes, yes I can.

Today, Saturday, it’s obviously a little different. They don’t tend to sleep in, and it’s probably just because they don’t know if they need to get ready for school or church. So today here’s what it said:


All four kids slept in (some of them up just after 7 and some slept until closer to 8) and happily sat down to watch TV together (other than 20 minutes before school they don’t watch much TV).

I don’t know if this will be as earth shattering for you and your home as it has been (so far) for ours, but I hope it helps! Obviously not all kids in foster care will struggle with this and it’s certainly not an issue limited to kids in the system. This is a useful tool for any child who has difficulty with organization and forgetfulness.

Foster Care Wish Lists: How friends and family can help

After we announced to our friends and family that we were starting the process of opening our home as foster parents, we had several people ask how they could help. In the beginning, it’s hard to know what you might need – you have just started your classes and you probably don’t know what ages you might have in your home. What do you even start?!

fostercarewishlistsBefore I get to my list, let me just get this out of the way:  I never expected anyone’s help. This was something our family decided to do, with no intention of relying on friends and family to purchase anything for us. So while you may have strong feelings about everyone’s “responsibility” to help kids in foster care, your friends and family didn’t sign up for this, you did.

But if you have people in your life who want to help and really want direction about what you need, you might consider starting a Wish List. Some people will want to give in particular ways – maybe they make blankets and want to bless your kiddos with a blanket of their own (like my friend Angela and her sons!), or maybe they want to bring you dinner (thank you Ashlie and Ciara!). Let them! :) However, some people will want you to tell them what you can use. This is where a Wish List can be really helpful.

We made a Wish List on, because that’s how so many people shop. And we had non-locals who sent items – friends I hadn’t seen since high school and college, a woman who I’ve never met in person! Amazing people!! So an online wish list was great for us. You can add items from as well as “universal items” that they could purchase anywhere.

Our Amazon Wish List was for our particular household, where we would be taking in kids in the approximate age range of 4-11. So here we go:

  • Lice treatment kits (Lice happens, y’all. Prepare yourself now.)
  • Good quality lice combs (We like the Fairy Tales Terminator Comb)
  • Lice Freee spray [Because let’s just go ahead and get all the lice stuff done at the top of the list]
  • Evenflo Big Kid booster seat (though we knew if we got younger kids in a 5 point harness we would need to get something different). We like these because they are lightweight for switching cars.
  • USB drives, on which we will put photos and scans of artwork, schoolwork, and photos of their stay to send with their parents
  • A Tracfone and Tracfone minutes, which is what we use for birth parent phone calls. We do NOT use it for anything other than parent calls, so we turn it on 5 minutes before a scheduled call and turn it off immediately afterward. For us, it has worked really well to separate those calls from the rest of our week. There’s no fear that they will call at a time we aren’t expecting it, and we have the only access.
  • Boxes with lids, like these Sterilite boxes. We had one in a dresser drawer when they arrived so that they could store food in their room if they wanted/needed. They haven’t used it for that, however. They use if for their hair things. Any way it goes, boxes with lids are a great thing. They are inexpensive and can be decorated and go home with the child if you wish.
  • Locking medicine cabinet, like this one by Helix. A locked container or cabinet was required for our home study, though it doesn’t have to be one specifically designed for medications [at least in our state]. I like this one because of the way it opens. I don’t store everything in this one, because it’s pretty small. I have another large container that is locked and stored elsewhere.
  • Small suitcases and duffel bags. No child deserves to carry their belongings in a trash bag. Perhaps you work with an organization who has suitcases on hand for kids, but perhaps not. When our friend Tracy bought some for us, I was happy to know that kids would never leave our home with their possessions in a Hefty bag.
  • Books about foster care (see below for affiliate links to the ones on our list!)
  • Gift cards for children’s clothing

In addition to the things listed here, we had great friends who brought over hand me downs and immediately dropped everything to get essentials for our girls’ first night in our home. If you are going to have older or younger kids, your needs will of course vary. You might need bottles and formula for a baby or toddler, toys for a preschooler, a desk for a middle schooler, etc. Think through your needs and ask around. It’s okay to not have everything, but it’s great to be prepared!

What else do you think belongs on a foster care wish list? Did you make a wish list when you opened your home?

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Review: Juniper Hill Aquatic Center (Frankfort, KY)

Juniper HillI don’t typically do local-interest reviews, but I felt like this new local attraction deserved a post. They didn’t ask me to write it, I didn’t get free tickets, I just wanted to share about our experience.

Juniper Hill Aquatic Center is a new multi-feature recreation center in Frankfort, Kentucky. It is operated by Frankfort Parks & Recreation and opened to the public on Friday, July 3rd, 2015. It has a large swimming pool with diving boards and a climbing wall, lazy river, splash pad for little ones, two large waterslides (coming soon!) and small waterslide (also coming soon!), and large shallow play and splash area. There is also a concession stand with super reasonable prices (hot dogs for $1.50!) and bathrooms/changing areas. The Aquatic Center is staffed by lifeguards in every area.

My family went to check it out today. In our group were 5 kids – my two boys (ages 5 and 6), our foster girls (ages 8 and 11), and my nephew (age 15) and the adults – my parents and myself. Because we came after I got off work at 4:00pm, we were able to get in at the Twilight Rate (available after 4pm each day), half price! So our group of 8 got in for $19.50. We had 3 hours to play, and we used our time well! Because it was later in the day, the crowd had thinned out, which was quite helpful.

11011023_926495554081881_8154775566076763284_oThe large, shallow splash area was my kids’ favorite! I bet the boys and the youngest girl went down the slide 50 times each! It has one of those giant buckets that dumps down every few minutes. We also enjoyed the lazy river, which had lots of squirty, dumpy things that soak you as you float around on a tube. The bigger kids also like the large, deep pool, though none of them were brave enough to attempt the diving boards or climbing wall. I wish the water slides had been open – I’m sure they would have been a hit, and we will need to go back once they are installed!

If I have to gripe about anything, it’s the bathrooms. They are in need of mats so that you don’t have to fear for your life on the slippery wet floors. And they could use some hooks or benches near the showers so that you have a place to put your dry clothes when changing. My advice to locals is to come with your swimsuit under your clothes and wait until you’re dry to throw something back on to leave.

11705353_613425429937_3111102589230938097_nBut there’s plenty to like, don’t get me wrong! The lifeguards, though mostly teenagers, were attentive and helpful. Things ran smoothly – things like picking up and returning your tube at the lazy river. I can certainly be prone to griping, but there wasn’t much to complain about today!

We all had a great time and are looking forward to returning to Juniper Hill Aquatic Center!

Here’s the info you need about hours of operation and daily rates:
Monday through Saturday 11:30 am to 7:00 pm
Sunday 12:30 pm to 7:00 pm

Daily Entry Fees:
Children 2 and under are Free
Children ages 3 to 10 will be $4.00
Youth ages 11 to 17 will be $5.00
Adults ages 18 to 59 will be $6.00
Senior 60 and Over will be $5.00

*Twilight Rate from 4:00 pm to 7:00 pm is offered at half price

Season Passes for the Summer of 2015 Effective July 3, 2015

Child ages 3 to 10 will be $38.00
Youth ages 11 to 17 will be $45.00
Adults ages 18 to 59 will be $55.00
Seniors 60 and Over will be $38.00
Family of 4 members in same household will be $95.00

How Cozi Saved My [Foster Parenting] Sanity


So have I mentioned that we got our first foster care placement? Probably not. ‘Cause things have been straight up bananas at our house. We got our first “real” foster placement last month. It happened in an absolute whirlwind the first week of May. I’d had that nagging feeling in the back of my mind all day – “I bet they’re gonna call today.” This has happened before, and we did get a call – they just weren’t ones we could say Yes to. In fact, they called at least a dozen times. A few times we said yes, but mostly we had to say no (for various reasons).

This time? I said yes immediately. An hour later, I was driving to pick them up!

I can’t say it has been all sunshine and rainbows. There have been moments where I thought “What have we done?!” but overall it has been great. They are sweet, polite, and just awesome kids. As with most situations in this system, we have NO IDEA how long they will be with us; we’re just loving them as if they’ve been here forever.

However, the amount of “stuff” that was suddenly added to our lives was pretty overwhelming – haCozi_Logoving to schedule 4 doctors’ appointments for each girl, therapy appointments (all kids placed through our agency receive therapy), CPS meetings, birth parent visits and phone calls – WHOA. I had to do something to keep it all straight. I’m good, but not that good.

Our family has used, an online family organizer, for over 5 years. We’ve used it for remembering our infrequent appointments, shopping lists, shared To Do lists, and more. But now, we needed it more than ever!

With Cozi‘s tools to organize my life, I’m able to schedule appointments from a desktop, iPad, or my phone and see all the details needed – locations, times, and who is involved. I can set reminders that will notify me on my phone (or Brandon’s phone, if he is driving). There have been days where our family of 6 was running in 3 or more separate directions!

Cozi • Calendar 2015-06-19 10-23-33Yes, I could do a paper calendar. I could write it all out. And I do still use a dry erase board on the fridge; two actually, one for notes and one that is a weekly calendar. But Cozi is my brain. Without it, I would have completely lost my foster parenting sanity in those first three weeks!

If you’re a foster parent, have a large family, or just have a lot of appointments and practices to juggle, give Cozi a try! Most of their features are totally free – others require a Gold subscription (which I do not have). See if it can help save your sanity like it did mine!

Disclosure:  This is NOT a review post where I was asked to review a product by a company or PR firm. I just really like this service and wanted to give them some love! :)

Review: Simple Sugars

Weather is harsh on my skin – in the winter, my skin gets incredibly dry. In the summer, it’s still dry and my poor pale complexion is so prone to sunburn! In addition, my upper arms have keratosis pilaris (basically little red dots that don’t itch). So you could say I have some skin issues.

SimpleSugarsReviewIn 2013, my husband and I were watching one of our favorite shows that we both enjoy, “Shark Tank”. We were so impressed by this young entrepreneur, Lani Lazzari, who pitched her idea for a sugar scrub to the “sharks”. Lani, who was at the time only 18 years old, started her company Simple Sugars at the age of 11 – WOW! She was composed, she was sharp, and she had a great business! Lani got a deal with Mark Cuban and Simple Sugars has experienced some incredible growth!

Simple Sugars is handmade, all-natural skincare products especially formulated for sensitive skin. They’re made with pure cane sugar and all-natural oils. It could be organic soybean oil, grapeseed oil, safflower oil, jojoba oil, apricot kernel oil or sweet cherry kernel oil, depending on the particular scrub.

I was sent the new Simple Sugars Vanilla Grapefruit body scrub, a Signature Scent which is available only at! From the website:

Simple Sugars Vanilla Grapefruit Body Scrub offers the incredibly refreshing scent of vanilla and grapefruit in a decadent body treatment. Specially formulated to treat even the most sensitive skin, this all-natural body scrub gently exfoliates skin while deeply moisturizing. You’ll get super-soft, smooth skin without using additional lotion or moisturizers. Use this exfoliating body treatment daily to simplify your skincare regimen, or offer the sweet scrub to family or friends the body scrub arrives in an adorable box with bow.

– Grapefruit and vanilla scent
– Gently exfoliates and deeply moisturizes
– Softens and smoothes
– Nourishes and firms
– Simplifies skincare routine by eliminating need for additional moisturizers
– Suitable for sensitive skin
– For daily use
– Packaged in box with bow

For this particular scrub, the ingredients are pure cane sugar, organic soybean oil, grapeseed oil, cherry kernel oil, apricot kernel oil, organic grapefruit zest, tocotrienols (Vit E), fragrance, essential oil, citric acid. It comes in a 5 oz. container for $15.00 or 8 oz. for $18.00.

I used Beauty Brands‘ exclusive Simple Sugars Vanilla Grapefruit scrub on my skin every day for a week and let me tell you – it’s incredible! You start off scrubbing it into your skin and it feels like a regular exfoliating scrub (except it smells AMAZING) but then the sugar dissolves into your skin, leaving it so moisturized and so smooth you just won’t believe it. And let’s talk for a moment about the smell – you’ll want to dig into it like a dessert, but don’t do it :) Have you seen the list of scrubs at Coffee, Lemonade, Tangerine, Raspberry – YUM!

Vanilla GrapefruitMy husband and I just returned from a cruise to celebrate our 10th wedding anniversary. We got pretty badly sunburned in the Bahamas and I used Simple Sugars on my chest and my face (probably not specifically recommended) and it helped SO MUCH! My face was peeling before use and it completely cleared it off. My chest was a hot, peeling mess that was all cracked and sore – after using Simple Sugars, the peeling is reduced, it’s not dry and flaky, and I’m recovering much quicker! And that’s just with the regular Body Scrub – Simple Sugars has a special Sun Scrub!

Simple Sugars has body scrubs, facial scrubs, foot scrubs, even Smooth for Men, a special line of scrubs for men! They also offer gift packages (for my family – THIS IS A HINT), from $23.95 up to $74.95 like the Variety Sampler, Pedi in a Box, and Smoothness to Go!

You can find more on Simple Sugars and Beauty Brands! Support this young entrepreneur and get your skin in shape by using Simple Sugars!

Disclosure:  I was sent a complimentary sample to facilitate my review. I was not paid for this post and was not required to write a positive review.

Open Beds & Open Hearts

Oh friends, how I hoped three months ago, that by now (mid-April), I would have more to tell you about our foster care story. I hoped and prayed that our empty bedroom would be full by now, that we would be settling in with a placement and really learning the ropes of being a foster parent.

EmptyHowever, this is not the case. In just three days, we will mark three months of waiting. The first month was the hardest. By month two, I was used to it, and into month three it almost became comical. I’ve managed to avoid cynicism for the most part, though it’s hard. Every night when I get my birth control pills out of the locked medicine box in my bathroom, I think “Gee it’s a good thing these pills are locked away from the kids we don’t have!”. And when I check my phone for the 1,516th time when I’ve stepped away from my desk (“Maybe I missed a placement call while I was in the bathroom!”), it’s hard not to feel disappointment.

But it’s really a weird thing to feel disappointed about though, right? That we still have open beds? Because if we aren’t currently foster parenting, that means they obviously have beds somewhere, right? Surely the foster care crisis isn’t over, we can’t all pack it up and say “Mission Accomplished!” See, I’m getting cynical again.

Wanting to help and feeling helpless are hard, but it’s nothing compared to what comes next. Because once The Call comes, and it will come, we’ll be in for sleepless nights of concern for our kids, new parenting challenges, heartbreak, and a new “normal” of therapy appointments and birth family visits. I feel as ready for that as one can ever be, but I should probably be using this time to gain more wisdom, pray more, and allow my heart to be broken and molded by the need. Because the need is great, friends.

Last weekend, we experienced our first respite care placement. I realized after excitedly sharing this news with our friends and family that no one knew what that meant, so I’ll explain:  Respite care is used within the foster care system when foster parents need a substitute foster parent. Most of the time it’s for a weekend, but it could be for a week or up to a month if needed. Children in the foster care system aren’t able to just spend the night with anyone, so foster parents are dependent upon others being able to meet this need. Most of the time respite is awesome for everyone (or so I hear) – the kids love it because it’s a break from routine and they don’t have their regular chores and the respite foster parents sometimes just do respite and it’s not a regular thing.

We were thrilled to have kids in our home, even if it was just for the weekend. The girls, which I’ll call Alexis and Savannah, were 11 and 12 and absolutely wonderful. We had the greatest time with them – we went to the movies, we played games, we went to the zoo, went on walks, baked cookies, and had a picnic. Basically, we did as much as we could fit in, because we were so excited to FINALLY have some kids in our lives! I don’t think it could have gone any better, and I hope the girls felt the same way.

But the weekend ended and they went home.

Waiting sucks. Having no real response when people ask for news is depressing. Feeling like everyone must believe that something is wrong with us because we haven’t gotten a placement? Not at all pleasant. Constantly being on edge and wondering if we should make plans because what if? Not fun.

Waiting is rough, but we’ve been using the time to learn and prepare so that when it’s right, it’s right and we’ll know it. Our beds are still open, but so are our hearts.

Review: Snipe Hunt Game

A good ole fashioned game of hide and seek is just FUN, isn’t it?? Who doesn’t love the thrill of the chase, the challenge of hiding where you cannot be easily found?

SnipeHunt1Ever since my boys were young, they’ve loved the game of hiding items around our house and going on a hunt to find them. As they’ve gotten older, their hiding skills have improved (“Oh look. You hid it in the basket. Again.”) and they’ve wanted more of a challenge. We were offered the opportunity to play and review Snipe Hunt, an indoor, outdoor hide & seek game, and were excited about playing this new game from Education Outdoors, Inc.!

Snipe Hunt is a game, based on the camping game of legends, that can be played with teams or with a single person seeking – trust me, it’s way more fun with teams! You can also play it inside or outside and at any time of the day or night! You can basically play it anywhere (though I’m guessing the folks at IKEA would prefer you avoid playing it there)!


The Hand Off – “Get it to the nest!!”

The game comes in this cute little box that looks like a live animal crate. Inside is a little “nest” piece where the Snipes, Smartin and Biela, live. One is red and one is green and they are both adorable. To play, turn on the Snipes and return them to the nest. Pick your teams and figure out the parameters of your hiding area. Then each team chooses a Snipe and hides them. Once both Snipes are hidden, meet back at the nest and declare it Start Time to begin seeking. The first person or team to find the other team’s Snipe and return it to the nest wins!

It sounds simple but it’s so fun! We played it many times last weekend when we had our first foster care respite placement (more on that some other time). Not only do you hide the Snipes, but once they are taken from the nest, a timer is activated. When they’ve been away from their nest for a certain amount of time (seems to be about 3 minutes), they begin to chirp. After a longer amount of time their eyes also start lighting  up.

When we played with teams, we had one group hiding their Snipe inside and the other group hiding theirs outside, which worked really well. We also set rules like “You can’t go behind any closed doors” and “It’s somewhere in the front yard; don’t go past the garage”. The Snipes are small, so there’s plenty of places to hide these little guys! Here’s one hiding on a car tire (which BTW we need new tires).


Here’s a little video of Miles and I finding a Snipe hiding up in a tree!


Playing the Snipe Hunt game from Education Outdoors

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The girls we had for our respite placement had a lot of fun playing Snipe Hunt, and it was great to play an active, exciting game as a family! Snipe Hunt is intended for players ages 6 and up (but my 5 year old enjoyed playing with us!) and can be purchased at many online retailers, including! Check out all the awesome games at Education Outdoors!

Disclosure:  I was sent a complimentary Snipe Hunt game in exchange for my honest review. I was not paid for this post.


Review: Fazoli’s Italian Style at Home!

I’ve always enjoyed eating at Fazoli’s, and now I can make Fazoli’s snacks in my own oven! Fazoli’s recently introduced Fazoli’s Italian Snacks, which can be found in the frozen food section of your favorite supermarket!

I was given the opportunity to try two snack options from the new Fazoli’s line. I tried the Lasagna Fritta and the Six Cheese Toasted Ravioli, which I located at my town’s Walmart Supercenter.


There are several other options, which I haven’t yet tried, the Mozzarella Cheese Mini Breadsticks, Chicken Alfredo Flatbread, and Parmesan Boneless Chicken. All of these options were not in stock at my store.

These snacks would be great for a party, by themselves for dinner with you’re in a snacking mood, or as appetizers for a dinner with friends! I went the snacky dinner route, myself!

I loaded up a cookie sheet with half of each variety.


And in about 20 minutes, I was ready to rock!


The toasted ravioli also comes with a marinara dipping sauce in a packet (not pictured, but delicious).

Here you can see the inside of the Lasagna Fritta and the Size Cheese Toasted Ravioli.



These are soooo good. Seriously yummy. The marinara sauce inside the Lasagna Fritta is zesty, exactly what you’d expect from Fazoli’s! It’s creamy, crunchy on the outside, and overall just delicious. The Six Cheese Toasted Ravioli is a perfect blend of cheeses and tastes great on its own or in the included marinara dipping sauce.

Anyone who is a fan of tasty Italian appetizers should pick up some Fazoli’s Italian Snacks so you can have Fazoli’s Italian Style at Home! Find out online where you can purchase them near you and tell Fazoli’s what you think of the snacks after you try them yourself! Learn more at!

Disclosure:  I was sent free full-price coupons to try this product on my own to facilitate my review. I was not paid for this post nor was I required to write a positive review.

No More Trash Bags in Foster Care!

TrashBagsAreNotLuggage Our family has some amazing people in our lives! One person I’d like to tell you about today is Tracy. She read on my Amazon Wish List this quote about kids in foster care:

In the world of foster care moves can happen quick…Often a trash bag ends up being the easiest way to pack and move in a hurry. What does that say to a child? (source:  Young Single and Adopting)

And after Tracy read that, she did something about it and bought two suitcases and two duffel bags (among other gifts!) and they were delivered to our house this week! The children who come to us in foster care might come to us with trash bags full of their belongings, but they will not leave with a trash bag!


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If you have suitcases or duffel bags in your home that are in great condition, please consider donating them to local foster care or children’s services agencies in your community! After checking into it, I found out that our agency has a nice stockpile currently but they will be doing another luggage drive in the late spring and I’m excited to help them raise awareness for that!

I don’t have much in the way of updates for you today. We are still waiting for a phone call or an email about A that will either continue our wait for her or open up our home to other placements. In the meantime, I’ve begun binge-listening to The Foster Parenting Podcast, which is an excellent resource for people just starting out or considering foster parenting!

Foster Parenting Podcast

Hurry Up and Wait

HurryUpandWaitIt has been an exciting time at our house since my last post! We completed our Foster Care Certification classes on Thursday, January 15th and then had our final pre-certification home visit on Monday, January 19th! After that, we waited for my husband’s background check paperwork to come back, which thankfully for him (because it was due to his “I’ll get it done…eventually!” mentality that caused a hold-up), was received by our worker the very next day. She then finished uploading all of the pieces of the paperwork and documents for our certification and completed our home study. It was sent off for the final stamp of approval, which came back the next day. All of that to say that our home is officially certified and “open” for foster care as of Wednesday, January 21st! The rooms are ready, we’ve been blessed by some incredibly kind gifts which I’ll share more about in another post, and our hearts are as “ready” as we feel we can be for the emotional rollercoaster ahead of us.

So why are we still waiting?

On the same day that our home study went off for approval, it also went to the social worker of a little girl who is waiting for a forever home via our state’s “Special Needs Adoption Program”…We’ll call her A. I found A’s photo listing on October 28th and since that day, I can’t get her out of my head. When I saw her that first time, I actually gasped. There’s something about A that has stayed with me, in my heart. I feel very strongly that we could be the family that she is waiting for.

The day I saw her listing, I contacted our certification worker and asked how the process goes for inquiring about for the SNAP program. I was told that when we got closer, if she was still waiting, we would pursue it. Almost three months later, she is still waiting, and I haven’t let it go.What happens now is that our home study is read through by this child’s worker, the worker’s supervisor, and an adoption specialist. They will evaluate whether or not we are a match for this child and if we are, they would offer the referral to us. At that point, we would have a conference and go through her history and decide if we are the right fit for her.

I’ve been keeping a little journal of important dates and thoughts throughout this process, so that if we are possibly matched with A and end up adopting her, she could read it. Here’s what I wrote last week:

“Sweet A, I hope you know that you are wanted. We wanted to be your family. Every day, we thought of you and wanted you here with us. I thought about you all the time and wondered where you were. I saw your name EVERYWHERE in these last days before our homestudy was finished – an author’s name, a dress pattern – you were everywhere and in my heart. You’re still waiting. You still need a family. I hope it’s us that you need. There are so many people praying for you. I hope you get the chance to experience being in a loving family. I know I’ll have no way to tell you if we don’t get your referral, but I want you to know that you are wanted. We wanted you.”

Until we hear back on our inquiry, we are “on hold” with our agency, meaning that they won’t send us any foster care referrals until we know whether or not we will be getting the referral for A. This period of being “on hold” might be another week or it could be a month or more. It’s one of those things where it could change very quickly — either in the positive, that we find out that we are moving forward, or the other direction and we get a foster placement right away.

You could say that patience is not one of my stronger virtues. I’m definitely struggling with not having any additional information to analyze. It’s entirely out of my control, which I’d better get used to. We want so desperately to follow God’s will and in this case, I believe He is saying “Just wait. I have something amazing coming, but you’ve got to trust me.”

So I’ll wait…I won’t necessarily be happy about the uncertainty and silence, but I’m trusting that He is leading us to something incredible.

And that’s where we are today. We haven’t chickened out, or changed our minds, we’re just being patient trying to be patient and listen to His leading.