Late night games, flashlights and ghost stories, forts and glow in the dark army men.
I guess you could say I have a romanticized view of sibling roommates. Possibly because I had a nice experience of rooming together with my older sister until she was around 10 years old (we are five years apart) or possibly because I always imagined that my children would share a room.
For several months now, I have been plotting when to make my move…or rather to make our youngest son (now 15 months old) into a bedroom with his older brother (very nearly three years old). Our oldest, Miles, has been sleeping in a toddler bed (or on the floor next to his toddler bed) for almost exactly one year, since he learned to climb first out of his Pack N Play (while on vacation, of course!) and then his crib. Spencer has been sleeping in his crib in his own room since he was about five months old and sleeping through the night since he was around nine or ten months old. While most nights we all sleep peacefully, there are still times when new teeth or fevers wake at least one of us up in the wee hours, so this planned move has been rescheduled numerous times.
But the time is here! Operation Roomies has begun!
Last week, I traveled with the boys to my parents’ house in Tennessee, where extra rooms aren’t exactly plentiful. There are two smallish rooms available in their second floor. Our youngest, Spencer, started out sleeping in my dad’s office in a Pack N Play while Miles went to sleep easily on the bed in the guest room. Several hours later when I went up to bed, I moved Miles to the full-size futon in the office with Spencer and I slept in the guest room. The first night went well! Both boys woke up for some unknown reason at 1:00am but they easily went back to sleep and then woke up for the day at a bright and early 6:30am. On to the next challenge!
We spent three nights at a cottage in Roan Mountain, TN, a cottage with one bedroom, a loft with two twin-size beds, and a sofa bed. Here’s how we managed this one: Spencer went to bed first, in the Pack N Play in the bedroom. About an hour later, Miles went to bed on the queen-sized bed in the bedroom while I prayed he wouldn’t wake up his brother! Except for the last night when Spencer cried most of the night and ended up sleeping on the sofa bed with me, this worked perfectly!
Our only problem has been naps. Spencer takes a morning nap every day and both boys nap around 1:00pm every day. I don’t think they can manage to fall asleep from being wide awake with each other in the same room. So my plan is to let Spencer sleep in the bedroom and Miles can nap in our bed and hope that it doesn’t backfire on me!
Today, we drive home to begin the next phase. My husband should be (honey, are you reading this??) moving furniture around today to prepare for Phase 3: The Big Move. Hopefully by the time we arrive, Miles’s room should contain a toddler bed, a crib, one dresser, and hopefully the changing table. What was Spencer’s room will now be a toy and guest room, just in time for a visit from a good friend from our college days.
I know I can’t expect miracles, but I’m hoping after a few weeks of adjustment, our boys will happily be sharing their room, enjoying their playroom, and on their way to becoming closer brothers.
Do your kids share a room? How did you make it work? Tell us in the comments below!