When I need a good dose of reality, I’ll think back to my newlywed days. It’s not that I’ve “Let myself go”, so to speak, but things aren’t exactly like they were when we were still in the honeymoon phase. Not only did we spend a lot more time snuggled up on the couch with one another, I also went above and beyond what is actually required of a woman in the meal department. Elaborate meal plans, hours spent planning and prepping a gorgeous meal, just for the two of us.
Fast forward to today. I have no idea what we’re going to eat for dinner. Well no, scratch that. I do know, I’m just a little embarrassed to admit it. Let’s just say it starts with an “S” and ends with “loppy Joe Casserole.” A few weeks ago, we had both Tater Tot Casserole and Sloppy Joe Casserole in the same week. I could almost hear my cookbooks crying from their new home in the dining room hutch. “Don’t you miss us, Krista? Remember all the fun and calories we had together?”
I do miss them, a little bit. It was fun to make those nice meals but it was also unrealistic for me. If that’s what you do and enjoy it, more power to you, it’s just not me. I like casseroles, easy meals, and very little planning. Not only that, but I’m trying to lose weight and I know that the more complicated my meals become, the more likely it is that it’ll be something creamy and cheesy and full of yumminess I shouldn’t be eating in large quantities.
For the first few years of marriage, I refused to cook or bake for my mother-in-law or my husband’s grandmother when they came to visit. I felt inadequate and inferior compared with what they could make and what I felt a good wife should be able to provide for her family. Why did I put that kind of pressure on myself? Is that really how the rest of the world eats every night? A four-course meal that took hours to prepare?
Sometimes I feel like the last person on earth whose kids eat PB & Js for lunch every day instead of hummus on carrots and celery sticks. That maybe I’m the only one who doesn’t want to eat like a caveman and still enjoys Coke. Whose kids don’t eat salad. Who doesn’t particularly enjoy salad herself. Whose food turns into a fail 25-50% of the time. Is that you? It’s me, for sure.
Today’s Reality Challenge is to tell me about some of the “real” meals you’ve had at home lately. Maybe you’ll Instagram it and share it on the Facebook page with a caption like “Mac N Cheese, y’all!”. This isn’t about healthy vs. unhealthy. Healthy can still be quick and easy. This is about not only sharing the superb but sharing the normal, everyday stuff.
Your Super Challenge for today is to invite someone over and have a normal meal with them. If you tend to eat a simple chicken breast with noodles for dinner, why feel like you have to rival Thanksgiving dinner just because you invited friends for dinner? Your friends care about you, not how awesome your ham tastes. Special occasions are great and we should all have them, but not at the expense of our sanity.
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