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One Day They’ll Grow Up

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One day, not so long from now, my kids will be teenagers.

That is the thought I had yesterday as my husband and I drove seven high schoolers on a trip for greasy burgers and hiking (great combo, no?).  My husband is a youth minister and while I do spend a lot of time with high schoolers, much of it is in the context of teaching.  Not too often do I get to take a day-long road trip with them without my own kids tagging along.

As we listened to the radio with them and listened to their conversations, I was struck by how much growing up must happen before the age of 14.  When I think back at my adolescence and high school years, I don’t remember it being like what teenagers experience today.  Sure we heard about bullying — I went to high school during the tragic rash of school shootings.  We certainly had our drama, too; though it was still unusual, there were girls in my class who got pregnant.  But it just seems different now.

The drama seems so much more intense, with consequences that seem more real.  Maybe it’s just because I’ve been wrapped up in the world of night-waking and diapers, but it makes me anxious to think about my kids someday experiencing the teenage life.  And who knows what it will be like then?

Do you think about your young kids’ teenage futures?  Does it worry you?  How do you balance being involved enough to have concerns with trusting that you are equipping your kids to make it through high school relatively unscathed?

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About Krista

Krista is a full-time working mom of two boys, currently aged 6 and 7. She lives in Kentucky with her husband, Brandon.


  1. I know exactly what you mean. What I heard and saw while I was a substitute teacher at a high school was enough to scare me so much that I swore I would home school my children. As much as I would love to do that (and think it is a great thing to do!), I’m not sure that is necessarily going to sheild them from all the crud anyway. And then what would happen once they went off to college and were bomarded by this stuff? All I can do is (in faith and reliance on God) guide and teach them through these tumultuous years one drama filled day at a time.

  2. Kristen A. says:

    Home School. Nuff Said. they absolutely are NOT going to high school in this district, it’s one of the lowest grad rates and highest drop out/teen pregnancy/gang rates. We have discussed moving and private schools and all that and will make a decision when it comes time. I am letting them go to school through 5th grade (next year is his last for my 10 yr old) then home school 6th-8th and then we will go from there. I think this will work best for us and our kids and in giving us their very formative years to give them a good base. I want them to go to shool during high School because I can’t possibly prep them for college, that’s where I was robbed as a teen, i hated not being preared and having to do remedial courses for math so I don’t want them to have to do that. But yeah lots of prayer and trust too of course!

  3. I think for a lot of us, college was such an awesome experience, that when we graduated we were removed far enough from high school that we forgot all of the drama. I hesitate to become an adult who declares that things are much worse than they were before. Even if it seems that way, there has been a lot of awful crap in the history of the world, and I’d like to be hopeful that there are some good times left!

    The area I find myself the most concerned about is more in the immediate future, going to school (or not). I’m worried about how school age kids will influence each other both good and bad. When I was a kid, I never would have thought about it, but as a mom it scares the crap out of me!

  4. Soldiers don’t go from the enlistment office to the front line of the battlefield. They must first undergo extensive training and practice. In the same way, I’m training my son to put on the armor of God daily, and learn how to use each piece. I know I can’t control the world outside of our home – but I’m going to make sure he’s as prepared as I can make him to face the world he’s forced to live in. Personally, I’m scared to death about what he might have to face in his future. But I’m also confident that God controls his life – and I’m just trusting Him to see him through it.

  5. We are definitely considering homeschooling the boys. Not because of the negative influence of others at school, but being able to shelter them from some of the awful things I experienced in school would definitely be a bonus.