A running theme in my life is this: “It doesn’t last forever. It’s only a phase. You can do this.”
Whether it’s the constant state of disarray in my house, the sleepless nights, or the repetition of ’round-the-clock feedings, it’s helpful to remember that these times won’t last forever. Although it may feel like the days of sleepy newborns will last at least a decade, as Spencer’s first birthday draws near, I’m having trouble remembering the first few weeks and months of his life. When I was in the middle of it, I didn’t think he would ever be sitting up on his own, crawling around, or eating something other than breastmilk.
Spencer is finally starting to get into a good nighttime sleep routine. I don’t worry about jinxing myself by writing that because we had an awful night last night. I don’t wake up every morning feeling completely rested, but I can feel that we are getting close. I think back to the agonizing nights of him waking every 10 minutes, not sleeping in his crib, and having to be bounced or nursed to sleep every time he needed to rest. I can’t believe we’re past that already.
I don’t know if more children are in our future. I’d like to think so and knowing how quickly the days of total mayhem with a newborn goes by helps sustain me. There are days when I look around and think “There’s no way I can do that again!” but I look at the calendar and see “Spencer’s First Birthday!” in big letters at the end of this month and I know I can do it again. Because every frustrating time of sleep deprivation is only a phase. Cluster feedings? They won’t last forever. You CAN do this.
What mantras keep you going in the midst of frustrating times?